January 1, 2012 - Let's Start All Over Again

It seems that the magical date of January 1 has made its way into our lives again. It is the perfect date to start all over and the vast majority of us use it to do that to some extent. How many times have we all selected January 1 as the day to begin the remaking of ourselves into something better, something more acceptable to our life's goals? Once again, I will use January 1 as the starting point of a new diet. My guess is that many reading this are shaking their heads and saying the same thing.

In addition to the more than likely failed effort of losing weight, I have decided to add an even more important resolution to my new year. This is one that I will do my best not to let slip through my fingers and be forgotten by February 1 which is generally the lifetime of most New Year's resolutions. As much as I would like to look in the mirror and see an Adonis staring back at me, this one is actually more important.

In less than a month, I will have made it through three years of my battle with cancer. It hasn't always been pleasant, but I'm proud to say that I have made it this far when I had serious doubts in the beginning that I would still be upright in 2012. Yet, I'm not sure that I have utilized my three years as well as I should.

I'm afraid that I have felt maybe too good during this stretch. Yes, I have had some difficult times, but for the most part, I have felt unaffected by the disease. It has given me a somewhat false sense of security, a security that most of us take for granted every day of our lives. That security is the belief that I will have tomorrow to get the most out of life, a life that should be enjoyed to its fullest extent every day, something I know I haven't done even with this cloud hanging over my head.

We spend our entire life wishing away the days always looking for tomorrow, looking for something better. It starts out very early when we wish to be older so that we can stay up later and not have to take a nap during the afternoon. (Now, I'd love to be able to take a nap every afternoon.) Then before long we are wishing away the days until we turn 16 so we can drive a car or 21 so that we can have a drink with our friends.

Everyone of us is guilty of wishing away at least four days of every week. How many times have you wished on Monday morning that it was Friday afternoon? We are only given a precious few days on this earth and we probably wish away half of them. Too many of us look at a normal day as a penalty that we have to pay to get to the good ones. The only exceptions to wishing away days are days that include trips to the dentist and getting a colonoscopy. I'm sure there are a few others, but those really stand out.

Give some thought when you are putting together your improvements in the next year and think about how you can take better advantage of those not so thrilling “normal” days. Not every day can be Top 10 day, but it is what we do with the rest that really make up our lives. Do your best to enjoy them because you just never know when you might not have as many left as you would like.

One thing that I have tried to do since I started this blog was to give you all an idea of what I was going through and what it was like to fight the biggest battle of your life. I have always tried to be honest because it doesn't do any of us any good to just say the things that people want to hear. With that in mind I'm going to level with you all, this year has not been the easiest on my mental approach in the fight.

As you know, I get my blood tested every month. This is both a blessing and a curse. Every month I know pretty much how things are going. Aside from being told for the first time you have cancer, the scariest thing that you have to do is hear the results of the next test. For some, that is in six months or five years or some other timeline. It really doesn't matter how long the interval, the fear never subsides, until the doctor tells you that all is clear or things are improving.

Of the twelve blood tests that I had this year, only three saw improvement, the rest showed some advancement of the disease. I cannot tell you how frustrating that has become. The reason that I bring this up is that my last blood test once again showed that the Revlimid is not doing the job. After the dosage was increased to 15 mg there was a nice improvement but this last month showed that everything that was gained was lost. So, I have been on Revlimid five months and the light chains have basically jumped up and down and are back where I started in August.

I guess that I should be happy that I have gotten five more months of relatively good health without it getting worse, but it just gets frustrating always being on the edge of having to do something else. I can live with the prospect of being on chemotherapy for the rest of my life, but it would be nice to see some consistent progress. As I have stated before, it is the mental aspect of the disease that can be so taxing. I'm extremely lucky that I only have to battle that part so far. I will be taking the Revlimid for another cycle to see if there is some hope to salvage the use of the drug. If not, it will be on to a different chemo drug.

Don't get me wrong, I still feel great. In addition, I'm going to take my own advise and try to enjoy every day just a little more that I would have in the past. I'm still pretty confident that the Mayans are wrong and we will all get to enjoy 2013, but you just never know......